Going Over The Wall

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Virginia Satir
The Great Family Therapist Virginia Satir Said (paraphrase) "People often create a wall around them selves" trapping them inside like an "Emotional jail".


Being stuck in the wall or Boxes of our own imagination
Once inside this wall it can be quite difficult to see over or past the wall to all of the possibilities, that really are available to anyone person.


Describing the wall as you may perceive it
Have you ever felt feelings of unworthiness, doubt, Insecurity, feelings of not being good enough or deserving even the most seemingly normal of things or circumstances ?.
Many people I have questioned about this in the past have been able to describe the wall, What it looks like, the pressure they can feel energetically, where the feeling originates in their own body and more..


How do we get this wall or feelings of being stuck ?
These perceptions normally originate from our childhood and grow with us, we are often able to ignore these feelings when we substitute distractions instead of Experiencing our "Core feelings" some may call this "Ego" or even "Alter Ego" and we can mold it into the shape that we perceive makes us more desirable, acceptable, likable and so on.

Distractions can be People, Work, things, Lifestyle, Money, Sex, Drugs alcohol etc really anything that allows you not to fully experience the pain inside.


Jail Breakout - attempting to escape the wall
In many cases we attempt to find relief in External sources which we believe hold the key to our own happiness.
We try our hardest at times to gain the attention and approval of others believing they will free us from this self imposed Jail.
We will not experience freedom until we allow ourselves to become accepting of our own internal selves. we hold all the keys for our own existence.


Fumbling with our Keys to open the locks
In many cases we are so used to our prisons that even when we have the keys in our hot little hands we have a few false starts to begin with.
Consider all we have believed until this point has become dependable, familiar, all knowing, a comfort of sorts. Is that so hard to believe, even though it held no promise, we knew where we stood with it and what to expect.
Changing beliefs and our ideas and cultural values can be a huge daunting upheaval we can expect to experience many false starts along the way.

The Beauty of the process
The Journey is the journey, the absolute beauty of the process is becoming excellent at the process and all the wonderful things we discover about ourselves along the way.
Each step forward takes us to a new place of magnificence that we would never have seen unless we continued moving forward.
We begin to notice other possibilities other interests other things that make us curious. We begin to expand our experience and how we ultimately perceive the world around us.


With each experience we become more experienced
By experiencing new things we become more experienced in how we solve problems and gain solutions, our mind get's in the habit of finding solutions and focusing on our intentions.

Our Unconscious mind finds solutions
The more our mind is used to being active in this way it becomes a more dependable organ for us, every single time our mind finds viable solutions, new pathways are created causing less problem time and faster solution time, allowing you to move forward on to other achievements.


The first step is often the hardest
Finding the courage just to begin stands between you, your wall and your possibilities. If you were to just explore the probability that you could, you are on your way.
Notice your feelings, begin to write them down and decide what you will do next. Slowly and surely is better that never ever.

"Choose Life without limitations"


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